What Size Dildo Should I Get? 5 Factors Nobody Tells You About
Worried about picking a dildo that’s too big or uncomfortable? You’re not alone. Choosing the right size isn’t just about length. It’s about safety, comfort, and confidence.
What size dildo should I get?
The best dildo size depends on your sensitivity to girth or length, body flexibility, experience level, and toy firmness. If you’re a beginner or managing conditions that cause sensitivity, start small and increase gradually using body-safe, soft silicone trainer sets.
Factor 1: Girth vs. Length Sensitivity
While many focus on length, gynecologists confirm that girth is often the main cause of discomfort. Using a toy that’s too wide without proper preparation can lead to tearing or irritation.
If you’re new or sensitive, target toys under 1.25 inches in diameter for a safer start.
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How can I tell if a toy is too thick?
Stinging, pressure, or resistance before or during insertion is a warning sign. Going for a smaller diameter and quality water-based lube can improve comfort.
Factor 2: Body Position and Flexibility
Position matters. The r/vaginismus community on Reddit suggests squatting or reclining when trying new sizes. These positions help relax pelvic muscles and maintain depth control.
Are certain positions better for comfort?
Yes. Positions that open the hips-like lying back with knees bent-can reduce tension and increase comfort.
Factor 3: Understanding Firmness (Shore‑00 Scale)
Silicone toy firmness is rated on the Shore‑00 scale:
- 00-20 (Soft) – Ultra-flexible, great for beginners
- 00-30 (Medium) – Balanced support and give
- 00-50+ (Firm) – For advanced users seeking fullness
Factor 4: Material Drag and Lube Compatibility
Platinum-cured silicone is non-porous, hypoallergenic, and medical-grade. Its natural texture requires abundant water-based lube.
Why it matters:
Silicone toys can feel fuller than those made from PVC. Pairing them with compatible water-based lube ensures smoother use.
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Factor 5: Training Sets and Progression
Gradual sizing is clinically recommended. Start with soft silicone bundles and increase size only when comfortable.
How long should I wait before sizing up?
Typically every 1-2 weeks-but always listen to your body. If it’s painful, wait before progressing.
Why Choose Erotixxx for Sizing Confidence
All Erotixxx Toys are handcrafted from platinum-cured silicone, tailored to your size and firmness preferences, and shipped in plain, unbranded boxes within 2-5 days.
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FAQ: Dildo Sizing Guide
What’s the best beginner dildo size?
Aim for 0.9-1.2 inches in diameter and under 5.5 inches insertable length. Choose soft or medium firmness.
Can a toy that’s too big cause damage?
Yes. Overstretching can lead to tears, tension, and long-term sensitivity.
How should I clean my dildo?
Use unscented soap and warm water. Top-tier toys like platinum silicone can be boiled for 3-5 minutes – Allure’s guide.
Why does firmness matter?
Firmness affects comfort, flexibility, and structure.
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References
- Healthline: Cleaning & Caring for Sex Toys
- Allure: How to Clean Sex Toys
- Reddit: r/vaginismus Community
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